Or need help overcoming challenges or a crisis?
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Our certified psychologist guides you through instructional videos for conversations and exercises you can do alone or with your partner.
Remainly is confidential and self-explanatory. You decide when and how you want to use the service.
Prices are per couple and include a 7-day free trial
Try our personality path and learn how to better understand each other and improve your communication. Learn more about the five personality traits; are you similar or far apart and how can you adapt?
One of the best investments you can make in life is to learn how you and your partner can secure and strengthen your bond, maintain interest, and expand your appreciation for each other. This path will teach you useful skills to build a lasting relationship.
Intimacy means sharing thoughts, feelings, dreams as well as sharing a bed. This path will help you create more intimacy in your relationship. Learn to talk about different level of passion, how to have more fun with sex, or get help to rebuild your intimacy again.
Imagine if you and your partner could resolve your disagreements in a respectful way - wouldn't that be radical? This path will show you how to listen to each other, avoid unnecessary arguments, and maybe even have some fun along the way.
Destructive arguing can be a major threat to your relationship. This path offers you techniques to find out why you argue the way you do and how to turn your arguments into constructive exchanges.
Most relationships can survive an affair if both partners are willing to invest the necessary time and energy. On this path our certified psychologist and experienced couples therapist will guide you through what to do, what not to do, and in what order.
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In times of crisis, many couples spend much of their energy arguing. They get caught in endless circles of accusations and defence patterns, where arguments become repetitive and rejections icy cold. These couples feel like they are being driven further and further apart. If there has been an affair, this magnifies all problems and one or both of you may even feel that going your separate ways would be the easiest solution.
There have been many other couples before you who have been helped by couples counselling to resolve the same issues you are facing. It might be good to know that if you are willing to put in the necessarey time and effort, it is possible for you to find your way back to stability and discover a better connection in your relationship.
If poor communication is causing problems in your relationship, it is time to get help and talk. Many people find it difficult to open up and identify their emotions, and even harder to express them so they are heard by their partner. Unfortunatly, many have limited or no models for how to communicate effectively in an intimate relationship. They find themselves repeatedly stuck in arguments, frozen by silence and distances, tiptoing aurond loaded topics, or over-accomodating to keep the peace. As attempts to solve the issues continue to backfire. The number of topics avoided might increase, as does the fear of starting arguments. It can seem like your relationship has landed in a field of relational landmines.
In situation like these, a couple can benifit from cultivating healthier communication habits by learning the following:
We know from years of experience that it's a good idea to see a therapist every now and then, even if everything is going well. Because at that point, it's still relatively easy to change small behaviours that can have a bigger impact in the long run.
When both partners are calm and relaxed, it's much easier to talk about the little irritations in everyday life that can eventually turn into friction. If you are doing well, you can learn how to avoid bad habits before they form, and you can start establishing good habits. This is also a good time to explore your individual differences.
Many of the problems that arise between partners are related to individual differences that turn into frustrating behaviour for both parties. For example, if one of you is tidier than the other, it can become a never-ending source of frustration for both of you.
However, if you establish ways to discuss this and learn that it is part of your personality, you may find that differences can be talked about without nagging, with respect and tolerance. It is much easier to tweak your habits in the right direction before time has cemented your patterns of behaviour in a negative way.
Many people think you have to be in crisis to seek relationship counselling, but that's not necessarily the case. All relationships need a regular service. Small changes in your everyday, practical habits can work much better than expensive spa breaks or vacations.
A major problem for many couples is that they develop automatic patterns of behaviour that are harmful to the relationship. Such patterns are almost impossible to change without outside help. Allowing these bad habits to grow greatly increases the risk of a breakup. Therefore, it is good advice to seek counselling while you still have the drive to make the changes. Very often, these changes consist of adopting some good daily habits and identifying bad habits. This is much easier to do when you are not facing a crisis.
If one of you is reluctant to participate in relationship counselling?
It may be that one of the partners would rather have couples counselling than the other. This is quite common, but if you are the reluctant part, do not hesitate. Showing your partner that you are willing to make improvements will strengthen your bond and gain trust. Partners who refuse to seek help together with their partner often wait until an ultimatum is given. If you act sooner, you can prevent a lot of stress, heartache, and a possible breakup.