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Our certified psychologist and couples therapist will guide you through how-to videos for conversations and exercises you can do on your own.
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Try our personality path and find out how to approach each other in a way that improves your communication. Learn about the big five personality traits; are you similar or far apart and how can you adapt.
One of the best investments you can make in life is to learn how you and your partner can maintain interest in each other, sustain appreciation and build new bonds. This path will teach you useful learnings for a long-lasting partnership.
Imagine if you and your partner could resolve your disagreements in a respectful way by acknowledging what the other person is saying. This path will show you how to listen to each other and avoid unnecessary arguments.
Destructive arguing can be a major threat to your relationship. This path offers you techniques to find out why you argue the way you do and how to control it.
Intimacy means sharing thoughts and dreams as well as sharing a bed. This path will help you rebuild and create more intimacy in your relationship.
Most relationships can survive an affair if both partners are willing to invest the necessary time and energy. On this path our certified psychologist and experienced couples therapist will guide you what to do, what not to do, and in what order.
Get access to all pathways from £19 per month.
In times of crisis, many couples spend much of their energy arguing. They get caught up in endless circles of accusations and defence mechanisms, arguments can become repetitive and rejections icy cold. These couples feel like they are being driven further and further apart. If there has been an affair, this magnifies all problems and one or both of you may even feel that going your separate ways would be the easiest solution.
There have been many other couples before you who have been helped by couples counselling to resolve the same issues you are facing. If you both want to find your way back to a normality and discover a better connection in your relationship, it is possible if you are willing to put in the necessary time and effort.
If poor communication is causing problems in your relationship, it's time to get help and talk. Many people find it difficult to open up and express their emotions. It is rare that two people who have been raised to communicate effectively get together. Therefore, it is a good idea to seek external advice on how to avoid arguments and find good habits.
This problem in relationships is often what we call silent topics. As you struggle to communicate the number of topics you avoid increases in fear of starting an argument. Regardless of avoiding the conversations, the lack of communication methods will cause the number of arguments to increase.
To avoid this, it is important to:
We know from years of experience that it's a good idea to see a therapist every now and then, even if everything is going well. Because at that point, it's still relatively easy to change small behaviours that can have a bigger impact in the long run.
When both partners are calm and relaxed, it's much easier to talk about the little irritations in everyday life that can eventually turn into friction. If you are doing well, you can learn how to avoid bad habits before they form, and you can start establishing good habits. This is also a good time to explore your individual differences.
Many of the problems that arise between partners are related to individual differences that turn into frustrating behaviour for both parties. For example, if one of you is tidier than the other, it can become a never-ending source of frustration for both of you.
However, if you establish ways to discuss this and learn that it is part of your personality, you may find that differences can be talked about without nagging, with respect and tolerance. It is much easier to tweak your habits in the right direction before time has cemented your patterns of behaviour in a negative way.
Many people think you have to be in crisis to seek relationship counselling, but that's not necessarily the case. All relationships need a regular service. Small changes in your everyday, practical habits can work much better than expensive spa breaks or vacations.
A major problem for many couples is that they develop automatic patterns of behaviour that are harmful to the relationship. Such patterns are almost impossible to change without outside help. Allowing these bad habits to grow greatly increases the risk of a breakup. Therefore, it is good advice to seek counselling while you still have the drive to make the changes. Very often, these changes consist of adopting some good daily habits and identifying bad habits. This is much easier to do when you are not facing a crisis.
If one of you is reluctant to participate in relationship counselling?
It may be that one of the partners would rather have couples counselling than the other. This is quite common, but if you are the reluctant part, do not hesitate. Showing your partner that you are willing to make improvements will strengthen your bond and gain trust. Partners who refuse to seek help together with their partner often wait until an ultimatum is given. If you act sooner, you can prevent a lot of stress, heartache, and a possible breakup.