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One of the best investments you can make in life, is to learn how you and your partner can sustain an interest in one another, maintain appreciation and build new bonds. This path will teach you useful learnings for a long lasting coupling.
Imagine that you and your partner could resolve your differences in a respectful way, acknowledging what the other says. This path will you show you how to listen to each other and how to avoid unnecessary arguments.
Destructive arguing can be a major threat to your relationship. This path provides you with techniques to find out why you argue the way you do, and how you can control it.
Intimacy means sharing thoughts and dreams as well as well as sharing a bed. This path will help you to rebuild and create more intimacy in your relationship.
Most relationships can survive an affair if both partners are willing to invest the time and energy needed. This path guides you through what to do, what not to do, and in what order.
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At times of crises many couples use much of their energy to argue. They get caught in endless circles of accusations and defence mechanisms, arguments may become repetitive and rejections ice cold. These couples feel that they are being driven further and further apart. If there has been an affair, it magnifies all problems and one or both of you may even feel that the easiest solution would be to go your separate ways.
If you want to save your relationship in a crisis, it is necessary to find help trough couples counselling. There have been many others couples before you who have been helped to resolve the same problems you are facing.
If both of you want to find your way back to a normality and discover a better connection in your relationship, it is possible if you are willing to invest the time and effort.
The time to get some help and talk is if poor communication is causing problems in your relationship. Many people struggle to open up and express their emotions, it is uncommon to find two people who have been raised to communicate effectively. Therefore, it is a good idea to seek some external advice on how to establish ways to avoid arguments and find good habits.
This problem in relationships is often what we call silent topics. As you struggle to communicate the number of topics you avoid increases in fear of starting an argument. Regardless of avoiding the conversations, the lack of communication methods will cause the number of arguments to rise.
To avoid this, it is vital to:
We know from years of experience that it's a good idea to see a therapist every once in a while, even when everything is going fine. This is because at this time it is still relatively easy to change little behaviours that may have a greater influence in the long run.
When both partners are calm and relaxed, it is much easier to talk about the little irritations in everyday life that may eventually turn into friction. When you are doing ok, you can learn how to avoid bad habits before they appear, and you can start establishing good habits. This is also a great time to explore your individual differences.
Many of the troubles that appear between partners are related to individual differences that turn into frustrating behaviour for both parties. For instance, if one of you is tidier than the other, this may become a never-ending source of frustration for both of you.
However, if you establish ways to discuss this and learn that it is a part of your personality, you may find that the differences are possible to talk about without nagging, with respect and tolerance. It is much easier to tweak your habits in the right direction before time has cemented your patterns of behaviour in a negative way.
Many people think you need to be in a crisis in order to seek relationship advice, but that is not necessarily the case.
All relationships need a regular service. Small tweaks in your everyday, practical habits may work far better than expensive spa breaks or holidays.
One big problem for many couples, is that they develop automatic patterns of behaviour that are harmful to the relationship. Such patterns are nearly impossible to change without external help. Allowing these bad habits to grow can greatly increase the risk of a break up, therefore it is sound advice to seek counsel while you still have the drive needed to make the changes. Very often these changes consist of adapting a few good, daily habits, and identifying bad habits. This is a lot easier to do when you don't have a crisis to deal with.
If one of you is reluctant to participate in relationship counselling?
It may be that one of the partners is keener to seek fo couples counselling than the other. This is quite common, but if you are the reluctant part, don't hesitate. Just showing your partner that you are willing to make improvements will increase your bond and gain trust. Partners who refuse to join their partner in seeking help, may often wait until an ultimatum is given. By acting sooner, you can prevent much stress, heartache and a possible break-up.
